The W told the counselor that she can't remember anything fun or positive in the past 17 years of marriage. Which really hurt to hear. Really made me angry actually. How can someone say that comment if they were thinking clearly.
Don't take it personally, it's straight out of the WAS script. I've read it so many times it's almost comical. DO NOT drag out photo albums and/ or tell her stories about how happy she was, it'll just make her angry and she'll probably use other lines from the WAS script like "I was faking it the whole time".
Regarding your last line, the whole point is she is NOT thinking clearly. She's in a fog right now. She's rewritten history, the entire marriage was bad, it's all your fault, she doesn't love you and never loved you, etc. etc. It's all emotions talking right now. Work on detaching and GAL and give her space to sort things out.
