Separating Inevitable

[littleGTO]

Thanks, AnotherStander, TheBestMeICanBe, Karen R, veroprado and Williams,

It sure feels comforting knowing that there are people who understand my sitch and some taht can really relate.

This week has been intense for me. I can't shake the fear of the OW's H coming to our home to seek me out about his W and my H and the sexual e-mail he sent to her. I feel so violated by her H's irrational behavior AND my H's pornographic email to OW.

My H threw out the idea of ME comm with her H to tell him I never want him to try to comm with me again. I /We would report him to the authorities but my H thinks he would retaliate by exposing the email to his work. What do you all think???

We haven't discussed his moving out in the past 3 days, but I'm sure it will come up this weekend, as the move out date was supposed to be 3 wks away. I will take the advice that was offered about supporting his decision either way but not to encourage him to go (as that's not what I really want for me or our 3 boys anyway).

We are meeting w my parents (who live in another state) tonight. he said he's glad he's going to be able to tell him 2 postive things--1) he's not comm w her outside of school now (as of Tuesday)and 2) he has an appointment to see a counselor! (initiated by himself!) I'm hoping that his wanting to report things positive things to my parents is a sign that he will stick to his new plan, or is this way too optimistic of me???

I am still very very doubtful he will be able to NOT comm w her for very long, or that when her D is final in 1 1/2 months that he will feel "free" to comm w her w/o her H's fury. And, he admits each day he has comm w her at work...thus the flame can continue (my interpretation).

Any advice on how to cope w my H's obvious and sudden new depression about his "break up" w OW?