My M can be saved, but I need your help/advice!!!

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Listen to the advice you are getting here. Ultimately, it's up to you and what you can live with.

I had to confront when I found out my H was in some type of affair. I'm not sorry I did and if I hadn't, I would have lost myself. I believe if I had waited for the PA to fizzle, I'd still be waiting and my emotional and physical health would have suffered dramatically.

I feel for you. Affairs are SO STUPID and can easily destroy so many people. In the end, I think few of them work out...however I've read the average affair lasts about two years. The secrecy and limited chances to see each other may keep them going even longer.

Take care of yourself, show your wife you are willing to forgive, and stay strong.