But I don't think he should sit idly by and just wait for his wife to take an EA to a full-blown PA, and do nothing . . . do you?
I want to be clear and respond to Starsky's comment. I am not suggesting that you sit idly around and allow the afair to flourish. What I do feel (and ftr, this is based on what you wrote) is that since things are going good for you, that you wait and monitor for a SHORT PERIOD of time to see if she has truly seen the changes in you. An EA especially for a women is just as bad as a PA. So, in my opionion this going physical would not make a difference..she already has an emotional connection.
So let's play this out...
Scenario 1 - She is about to tell OM that it is over. You say F it and confront her. In shame (and she should have it), she flips, she NOW knows that YOU KNOW her secret. So in pain she runs back to OM. What have you gain here? Did you accomplish YOUR goals?
Scenario 2 - She does not tell OM it is over and keeps leading you on. You feel like crap knowing that your W if banging someone esle. You confront her either after the trip or before it and one of two things happens - she ends it or she doesn't. At this point you will need to determine what it is that YOU want to do.
Scenario 3 - You do nothing for a long time, while your W keeps banging someone else. You sit around hoping that she "wakes the F up" or finally sees how much you love her or she comes running back to you when OM dumps her ass. Not the ideal scenario but hey it is an option.
Personally, I'll say again MIR, you need to do what YOU think is best for YOU. Not what I think, not what Starsky thinks...nope what you think. My only advice is to understand why you are going to do something and......to make sure it is in line with being the MAN THAT YOU WANT TO BE.
Good Luck Eric
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