Is It really Worth it?

[Ready2Quit]

I have been married for 24 years, been with him for 30. We have two Sons 17 and 19. The last five years he has been having an affair with a co-worker. I have asked him to leave several times, but always wanted him to come home. We have been to about 6 c, both together and IC within the last 5 years. He would tell me it was over and he would change, but that never happened. Finally I did what I thought I wanted I had a "fling" slept with OM. It was horrible. He found out, the next day I saw text to OW telling her eveything and ending with "I love you, Babe" I told him to leave. He has been gone for two months living with his mom. At first I did everything wrong, begged, pleaded, texted, asked him to come home. He said there was nothing left and he could not get over me having sex with another man.

Pretty funny since it seems it was ok for me to get over him having sex wth another women. I finally started doing the 180 on him. He would call and want to go to dinner or something and I would always say YES Then I realized I could not do this anymore, It hurt to much to see him and know this was never going to work out. So I started saying No. Last weeke he asked me to go to a haunted house "with the kids" I told him I could not go. He got mad and could not believe I had made other plans when the "kids" wanted to go. I had not made other plans, I just told him I could not go and the kids didn't even care.

Well, he had knee surgery yesterday in the hospital where I work. I did not go see him. He sent me a text saying his mom was really surprised I didn't come see him since I work here. And he was disappointed that I didn't come see him? WTF? Then last night he sent me a picture of his knee, (looking for sympathy?) Then this morning another text telling me how bad it hurt and that his Aunt had died. I was very nice told him I was sorry. I told him to make sure he took his pain medicine.

He said it helps, but doesn't take all pain away (?) I know he is still seeing the OW, but I don't know why he is suddenly trying to contact me and be all nice? His mom is taking care of him (loser!). I am not sure what to do at this point except continue with the 180. Bad thing is we are going to a wedding tommorrow. Both my boys are in the wedding. I am driving seperate because I am bringing the g-friends, he can take his mother. I don't want to stay long for the reception alot of his family will be in attendance. How do i leave quiety? The girls will ride home with the boys, so it is just me! I am just not sure what he is up too!