How do we live "together separate"?

[cat04]

Thank you for your thoughts. DB, has taught me well, and while this is a difficult time, I know that I will survive and I will continue to thrive...

It's ok to not know what you want at this point.

Currently, I have been presented with some options that didn't exist before she passed and now I have some soul searching to do and some decisions to make.

I will be able to do that because of what I learned here. Because of the support I have received from here. Behind the scenes, I have received a huge amount of support from the friends that I have made here. Thank you to everyone.

This is a good and safe place, even if it doesn't always feel like it.

This is a place where it is ok to say, "I don't agree with you", "I don't like how that made me feel" or something to that effect and those of us who have been here, take no offense to that. Because we have all done it. We have been there and while we don't know all of the details of each individual situation, we can understand to a great degree, the emotions that are coursing through someone who is closer to their bomb day than we are.

Your choosing not to post again, is something that is up to you. No one else can make that choice, although I think you have seen that others have tried to encourage you to make the choice to give DB, the boards, and yourself a chance.

They have done that not because they are nosy, but because they know what this forum has meant to them. How there were days they wanted to come through the computer and rip someone's head off for a post they didn't like and there were/are days they want to find the poster and hug them simply because they felt understood, cared about, like a person again.

This is the best worst place to be in this situation.

We laugh, we cry, we tease each other and we argue. Those are the dynamics of human relationships, even in a virtual world.

It isn't easy. It isn't easy to put yourself and your thoughts and feelings out there and it isn't easy to get responses that you may not like. Or even responses that you do like. It can be very helpful though.

It also isn't necessary to respond to every person who posts to you, if you are truly offended, as our wonderful moderator said, there is a notify button...

I have some questions for you as I would like to get to know more about you and your sitch, however I have to go to work shortly and won't be able to post them until later, if you would be willing to consider hearing them.