Kicking a$$ and taking names!

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I'm going to make a suggestion and I hope you will understand where I am coming from. You need to slow down your texting w/him. If he texts you, wait several hours or even the next day to text back. He's not going to miss you if you are texting back and forth. He needs to feel the aloneness, just as you have. He needs space to think about what he's doing and if he's thinking about you, as a special friend and texting quite often, he will not put his focus where it should be.

Also, you need to set some boundaries about your living space. Are you going to your h's place to shower? If the answer is no, then you need to stop this behavior. Your home is the living space for you and your son. It is not the Holiday Inn or the gym locker room. He needs to respect your space, just as you are not in his.

I think from what I've been reading from your postings, that your h thinks that this cool behavior that you two are sharing right now will continue after the divorce. He doesn't realize that divorce comes w/consequences.

His calling to tell you he was drunk was a call looking for empathy and he knew that your son would tell you about him hurting his shoulder. It may have been his way of opening the door again since you walked out of the home and told him to text when he left. They do not like for us to be mad at them because it makes them feel guilty. As you know, drinking will not help him, but it is his way of self-medicating. When he's like that, try not to respond back to his texts. He needs to grow up and he can't do it if "mom" is there to make him feel better and put a boo boo strip on his achy soul.

You've come a long way and I don't want to see you fall into his dark pit w/him. I do like the title of your thread, so put your boots on and get ready to kick some a$$ because you need to think about setting boundaries and sticking to them.