Life as an Authentically Living LBS.

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One way to put the working brain of an mlcer is that of someone who has a child who has adhd. Everything is scattered and there is no neatness about it. The brain of an mlcer is very much like that. Nothing is as it should be, but the wires are crossed and the thoughts and emotions of the mlcer are scattered at best. No one should ever wish to see inside the brain of an mlcer...it's utter mess.

Kimmerz, I do understand your need to analyze and want to find answers, however, you can analyze mlc till the cows come home, but you will never get a complete picture of what goes on w/them. Each and every minute of the day, something is flitting across their brain waves and nothing makes sense to us, but those thoughts/feelings make sense to them because they are living and feeling them. The injuries that they suffered are not on the outside like cuts and bruises, but on the inside and until they can heal those wounds, they are going suffer.

I don't think it so much that he's trying to control you via the texts, but he's trying to grasp on to what he knows and yes, you are the one holding the final string to his past "apron". I don't think he is even aware of the pattern that he's set up w/the phone calls, but that may be the time that his brain slows down enough to allow him to remember you and your daughters in a calmer setting.

I use to sit and analyze my xh until the cows came home and one day I realized that there is absolutely no rhyme or reason for what he did or didn't do in any given instance. I had to learn to accept him for who he was at that time and I didn't like the behavior, but I remembered the man that I was married to at one time and came to the conclusion that I would treat him just as I would if he had a terminal illness. Now, nothing he does surprises or disappoints me because I see him as a "stranger" because he's never come out the other side.

It's very important to detach as much as you can because his behavior will drive you crazy.