sam, I am very sorry to hear about your mom's situation. My thoughts and prayers are w/you and your family.
If your w gets under your skin too much, send her packing to the hotel room or give her a list of errands to do. Her behavior isn't helping you at all during a time like this.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
