A New Week... A New Opportunity...

[breakdownbill]

^^^^ CB is right here Arsene.

You don't realise that you are keeping yourself locked in the accepting friend zone.

I know you need a good relationship with your W for your visa, but you really do need to try and spend less time with your W.

This cycle that you are in is not going to change unless you change it.

Right now she's being allowed to live like she has been, not just because you are with D8 more, but because you are still fulfilling the emotional bond of your R with your W.

I'm not saying you need to be cold with your W, but you definitely need to start saying no half the time to her and to start making your own plans.

All I'm saying is that if you don't change the dynamic, she has no reason to change.

If she came back because the OM dumped her I'd worry for you that this would just keep on happening to you.

Read back through some of these posts Arsene, there is a theme, people are telling you to try something different, work out what you can do right now and put it into action.

Bill