Originally Posted By: leopoldstotch
My question to you is why do you feel bad doing this to her? She has shown time and time again that she only cares about herself and no one else. Ed it's time to take your blinders off and see her for who she really is.


I am so glad you posted.

Actually, i was just reading through your entire current thread, so i am getting to know you a little better.

Now to honestly answer your question.....

When she admitted that she realized that she wasn't much of a mother since her own mom got sick, which now is nearly 4 years ago, it tugged at me that maybe she was finally looking in the mirror at what type of person she has turned into.

Also, just a small minute amount of Hope still resides in me that she also may be finally looking at her role as a wife too, that assisted in getting our marriage and family into the state of turmoil it has been in for ever so long.

I think my Hope may be flickering out though.

When she texted earlier today and added, "Please, Please, etc...", that really did tug on my heartstrings. She never asked like that before.

I just will continue to work on bettering my life for now.

I just feel like screaming at her for what she did, but i won't. I am trying to work on not falling into the Blame Game trap.

Thanks for bringing that up.

Ed


Me, 55 W, 36
T, 10 yrs
S-9
M, 8 yrs
1st D-Day, 9-27-2009, With 1st bf, ea/pa
2nd D-Day, 12-5-2009, With her best friends bf, ea/pa
W, AA relapse early 2009-Current
W moved out 2-16-2012
New OM 5-2012