A question for those who were WAS. Those of you who were treated bad in your M and have Reconciled was it one specific thing that triggered you to reconcile with your S or was it consistent time + changes in your S that madebyou want to reconcile?
Mandy was a WAS and posted a bit about her "recovery" here:
The interesting thing is she doesn't really talk about any big changes her husband made to draw her back, she describes it as more of a fog lifting and that she suddenly remembered the good things in the M and felt herself falling in love with him again. She does mention an encounter with him where she was surprised at how confident, strong and happy he seemed, and that it had an impact on her. That sounds straight out of DR
I will give that a read. I was curious because I know there are a few stories on here where some of the DBers had themselves decided that they were ready to D their WAS and it was then that the WAS woke up. Now please don't think I'm trying some trick to wake up my W in the hopes that she changes her feelings lol. I know better than that. My curiosity has gotten to me since my feelings are slowly starting to drift towards wondering if I can continue doing this.
M 44 W 43 S 23 S 15 INILWY 9/11 Divorce Mediation started 3/13 June 30 the day W is moving out
