Kimmerz, If he is in MLC what makes total sense is that he will want anybody but you and if she's controlling thats great for he will need to make very few choices, because you cant when in MLC.
Living authentically means living for you and only you. Maybe someday he will come out of it and maybe not. I still love my EXW but I will not be there if she comes out of it. I can't even coparent with her and thats not a choice I would make, but it takes two to coparent.
Secretive, par for the course. The chances of him living authentically, you already probably know the answers.
I will let you come to your own conclusions on what to do. I think you already know the answer.
Please love yourself, you are the answer to this equation.
