Kids are OK. I feel for them because their dad is not too interested in communicating with them, unless its to criticise. He does talk to me about them and ask what's happening in their lives. I validate, validate how he feels. Its not always easy living with young adults either. Generally, they are very good and don't cause us much trouble at all. It could be really bad. So I think we are really blessed.
H is in no frame of mind to count his blessings. You know what I mean! It causes friction. Lucky H spends lots of hours at work that's all I can say.
I do remember H's dad being the same a number of years ago. Sitting in his recliner, smoking and drinking (my H doesn't drink much) watching TV continually, being bitter and not communicating with anyone. Apple doesn't fall far from the tree. I have told my sons to be aware that it could be them one day, but they can still have control of their thoughts and actions.
