The crack in my perfect life...

[Sweetbriar]

So, today I get a text from H saying he would like to call me to discuss mortgage. He is pushing me to refinance the house for a lower payment, because although he isnt living here, he is paying the mortgage. I didnt respond, as I dont know what I intend to do, and then he emails me the borrower agreement and asks for my signature??? This is to authorize them running my credit. I am uncomfortable right now of doing any of this before our court date on Nov 5th to finalize separation. He is claiming that I am only hurting the kids if I dont refinance because he is going to stop making payments if I refi. I am nervous, because I dont want to lost my house, but I also dont want to refi on our home when we are divorcing. Im confused...I called my lawyer...waiting to hear back tomorrow. Im trying to find out if the house will be ruled upon for our separation. I was hoping that he would have to pay all my bills and my mortgage for the year of sep due to his affair and abandoment. I have not worked in 14 years. Has anyone gone through any of this before? Of course, every state and every judge is different, but would love feedback. The threatening call today to tell me all of this put me in a crappy mood, as he said that its not benefitting him either way...

I just dont get that he would put us all out of our home (my kids and I). He gets more and more heartless and threatening forclosure is pure meanness...H advised me that I need to have an answer to him ASAP...so I have to quickly reply to him, but he can just run away from his life as he pleases...yes, Im bitter!