As I am a bit newer to this site, I would like to know if you each have successfully saved your marriages, etc. This would help me understand where you are coming from a bit.
As I tried to express, the past PA is not a deal breaker to me as far as saving the marriage. I have come to terms with it and although it does hurt at times still, I do want to move forward. But to me, this means she and I, the two of us, hence my comment that I feel we cant move on until the A is exposed and she states to me that she wants to work on us.
Should I just google personal non-negotiable boundaries or can you direct me somewhere?
This may be answered by reading aobut the above, but I should tell her that I know there is an A, but then not offer proof if asked? Should I need to counter if she denies it?
And forgive me for confronting here, but it seems that this advise jumps straight to an ultimatum "She is free to choose that marriage or to D and go be with the OM", am I understanding this properly?
