Perhaps now is not a time to be reading about the 5 LL's and you should be reading up on what your rights are where your located if you D.

Then you should decided if a PA is a deal breaker for you.

If it is. Follow the path and D in a civil and respectable manor.

If it is not. Then learn about personal non-negotiable boundaries.

Then when your up for it.

Sit your wife down and explain them to her. Do not show proof. Do not tell her she cannot go be with OM. Do not tell her that your going to be the lighthouse that shines for years to come.

You explain that you know what is going on. That there is no use lying about the adultery. That you want this and this and this in a marriage. That you are offering this and this and this in a marriage. This is what you want. She is free to choose that marriage or to D and go be with the OM. There will be no R talks while there is a 3rd person in our marriage.

Then end the conversation. Back away. Start parallel paths. Path one is DB'ing Path 2 is Plan D.

And no you do not explain the paths to her. You just state your boundaries and then you live within them.

How long it takes to get here is your choice.

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