I suggested we go away that weekend. Just us. She jumped at the offer and we reconnected. I was hoping that she would show some affection towards me, but was not expecting the level of intimacy and passion we shared both nights. I thought this was a good sign. We also had another previously planned trip the following weekend and that went very well. In the mean time she has mentioned that she is enjoying the changes and has noticed them. She even said that I am a completely different person than the one she had become used to. And just yesterday she commented that something I did just might have been the sweetest thing I have ever done for her. And our communication has been getting better day by day.
We actually have another trip (planned a while ago) for this weekend, but she is excited about it and we are making plans for doing things at this destination. I have kept up the changes and have not backslid at all.
The problems I now face and need advice about are these: We have not really had another big discussion since the one I initiated. We did talk briefly about some lighter relationship issues, but she told me that she is the type to internalize and that she does not want to cause conflict. This comes at the detriment of talking openly with me. A huge frustration for me. I feel that we cannot move forward until she also commits to US as I have, and I feel that this cannot happen until the affair is exposed. She did ask me one day what the catalyst was for the discussion and I told her it was several things, but did not mention my thinking she had an affair (did I drop the ball here?). I felt she should be the one to bring it up.
She has only had online contact with the OM as he was going through his own turmoil (including current divorce proceedings), but I found out that they may be planning to get together next week. I was hoping the PA was at least over, and it would absolutely tear me apart knowing this was happening as I was sitting at work.
