The next time you start wondering "WHY" she is doing something... I really want yout to try and think...
Instead of WHY...or Y
Instead think:
Z is for Zebra.
It makes as much sense as does wasting your time wondering 'why'.
I think (MOST) of them reach out, especially the women, not as a sign of wanting to come back but as a gauge to see if we 'hate' them. To make a simple offering of...something nice so we can all be that fairy tale "friends" they wanted us all to be; where we all including the OM/OW sit together on a bright sunny day and have a picnic and share pie and crap like that while we feed ducks and laugh at how everything is wonderful now, and how the MLCer knew best and it all worked out and unicorns cook us filet mignon...
My wife, when we were seperated would email me crap too.
Didn't matter that I told her I would only talk to her if it was about our mutual bills or our boys.
Later when she asked if I had gotten those emails, I tol dher very frankly that I deleted anything from her that wasn't about the bills or our boys.
She got quiet, but she couldn't argue, I had set down a boundary, she was testing it so she could feel better about herself? I dunno...I also more importantly DID NOT CARE 'WHY'. All I knew was that I was living up to my end of my boundary.
Not sure if thats going to help Tad, I hope it does.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
