Was this them the whole time ??? My 2nd thread

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This is the confusing part for me -- since until I started posting here I would always greet her when I saw her I am trying to stop that and NOT speak to her her UNLESS she speaks to me.[/quote]

I know, I know, if you are anything like me…it was like a knife in the heart. It was like WTF, don’t I deserve at least a hello. Right now, she probably can’t be nice and civil – so instead she chooses silence. I am not excusing her bad behavior per se – just providing another perspective. Right now she can’t so try not to EXPECT her to. That said, HER ACTIONS should not DRIVE YOURS. SO if you want to say hello, say it. Don’t allow her craziness to turn you into a bitter and mean…not to mention NOT speaking person. Don’t give her a “reason” to be pissed off at you at the same token, do not do something you do not want to do.

In terms of her being in the house and not speaking……Here is where the DB approach of “act as if” I think will help….

Act as if you are okay with her being in the house, act as if you are going about your life.

Oh…and DB101 again on the “ass kissing doormat”….change how you look at it. Are you a doormat or are you giving her the loving space she needs to fix her chit? I personally, think the later. [quote]

So you think I should greet her when I come home or when she comes home ???