Be patient. These things take time. Also, have you heard the book ILYBINILWY? If you're still living together and no OM in involved it might help. I also really like The Love Dare Journal.

Read the reviews. They're good books. I wish all the best!

M 42 H 39
T10 (-2yrs separation)
S8 D5
DD 7/30/11 (EA&PA)
Reconciled 6/2013
Separation in works 1/2017