Thread #8 - It's time.

[Navyguy]

Hey everyone! Just stopping by to say hello. Sorry it's been so long. I've been thinking about you all, but for some reason that is hard to explain, I needed to take a break from the boards.

The trip to Tennessee went well. W's family still doesn't know what's going on. We all had a good time.

I'm doing ok. W and I are still under the same roof, but getting closer to a separation. Since my last post, W got a job and started working. We hired a nanny to watch the kids before and after school. W and I haven't talked about it much lately, but I think the plan is for her to save up enough money to move out and then do so. It is inevitable at this point, and honestly I am looking forward to it.

We are still amicable, but I have really been keeping my distance from her. Her behavior hasn't changed one bit. We haven't had a "talk" in probably 6-8 weeks. She is still sitting alone on the deck and drinking and smoking every night. She's still drinking a lot. I have stopped going out there and hanging out with her. I was thinking that she might change once she started working, but it hasn't.

Pretty sure she's still messaging "OM" on a daily basis...but has not seen him as far as I know.

W comes home and spends about an hour telling me about her day at work. All the gory details. I listen to her...but I am constantly wondering why she is telling me all that.

I am ready to get on with my life...and right now it feels like she's an anchor that's keeping me stuck. I am pretty sure that I'm going to have to be the one to do the dirty work here (i.e. start separation-related discussions).

I've mostly been using this time to emotionally heal from this mess. I think the last 2 years have been rough, but I should have a relatively short recovery time once she's out the door.

I took the kids to OBX last weekend, and we had a great time.

All in all, things are getting better. W is still miserable to be around...but that's her problem now, not ours.

Hope everyone is doing well!