Was this them the whole time ??? My 2nd thread

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Since I was basically always being kind and nice -- she wasn't responding to it - so you say if you DBing and it is not working --- try something completely different.

Do you have children ??? This is becoming a concern for me, my son is autistic and needs a lot of attention - before my wife got canned from work I was home with him every afternoon when he got off the bus - now since I am working 2 jobs my wife is taking care of him -- he needs to be read to and stimulated - my wife lets him watch TV and play video games ad nauseum. My bigger concern is how impatient she is and how much she yells at him when he doesn't do everything exactly as she wishes which is impossible as he has focusing issues - any advice ???

Also how do you handle financial issues when she is out of work and spending money we don't even have -- I find these 2 situations daunting -- my wife would never spend dollar unless we had 5 !! She has spent over $12,000 on credit cards since April -- She took $10,000 out of her 401K (which is 1/2 mine) and gave it to her parents to pay for her sisters wedding. She also took $1000 out of the saving account yesterday without asking me which is our rule for the saving account - Should I address this issue or ride the storm with her ??