As long as one of you are present during the appraisal, that should be fine. You may need to remind the appraiser that he will need to send a copy of the report to your h. Be sure you get a copy for your records!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
