Since you are getting it, and your H isn't, you might have to try to lead him when it comes to this stuff, at least initially.
And in the heat of the moment is never the time to do it. Dropping it when things start to escalate and then coming back to it when both people are calm and "the issue" is no longer an issue, is usually more helpful.
Me 57/H 58 M36 S 2.5yrs R 12/13
Let me give up the need to know why things happen as they do. I will never know and constant wondering is constant suffering. Caroline Myss
