It's sad to hear that this is having an impact on your S.

The fact that he has a negative opinion of the OM, and the fact you are seeing visible negative changes in the W speaks volumes. You are a good man and doing things right. Her negatives define her and is no reflection on you.

Me: 43
W: 37
Together: 18
M: 15
D: 8 yrs old
ILYBNILWY: March 2011
She Filed for D: August 2011
She moved out: Sept 1, 2011
Reconciled: May 2012
Divorce Case dropped: July 2012