3 years aftet D-Day and i finally registet

[Am I Too Late]

So, i called her tonight after she had sent the same text forward to me for the 3rd time.

I wanted a truthful clarification as to her agreeing to Parenting Counseling. She said that it would still be a good idea, but that it should not be a condition for her to have her son over for a visit because she is his mother. Yes, she finally is in deep need of feeling like a mommy at this point and time. This friends death this past Monday made her do alot of thinking about things, is what she said.

I asked her if she felt intimidated by me asking her 5 weeks ago and if she really agreed, and was told that she was embarrassed and agreed to that just to go along with anything at that time.

I want to know her true and real feelings and not to feel that i coerced her to say only what she felt i wanted to hear.

Also, she said that she hasn't been much of a mom ever since her own mom got sick. She feels, in her own words, that she was the perfect mom prior to that.

But, she says she wants to correct that now. She said she has been doing a lot of thinking over this past week, ever since my friends wife passed away from the alcohol and drug overdose. She said, even though she has seen many others from AA die, that this one was someone that she really felt a bond with several years ago and even considered asking her to be her sponsor. She plans on attending the Wake tonight and still feels funny about running into so many of her former friends from the program.

I assured her that her fear was worse than the reality of attending and that all the people she knows will love and welcome her.

I want to see what our son feels about spending the night over at her apartment.

The aspect i wondered about Parental Alienation..... I was serious and trying to examine my true motives for considering withholding him from his mother.

I told her i would speak to her about it later today.

So, does this make me a doormat for reconsidering?

I doubt i have much respect from her but does this diminish that even more?

II

I did not send that message to her that i posted yesterday.

25YearsMlc..... I do alot of things that may be considered, GAL. Granted, they mostly center around my son, so personal individual only type enjoyment has been missed, although i love all the activities i partake in.

Recently, i went to a pumpkin farm, several local festivals, to an arcade, to discovery lego-land, to Wisconsin, for a very long motorcycle ride (prior to putting my bikes up for sale), for a several hour bicycle ride down the bike trail running next to the river, and camping in a tent earlier in the summer, along with going to the movie theater occasionally. Additionally, i volunteer at the school to put on each of the class holiday parties. We also go to the local library 2 to 3 times per week.

Granted, these activities all include my son. Plus, add in dinner and homework, which always includes between 1/2 to 1 hour of reading time. Add in his library book club, karate lessons, 2 cub scout meetings per month and me going to at least 2 to 3 AA meetings per week with him going along.

For myself, i visit to various friends homes, usually on the weekends.

My main purpose in my life now must be earning money, all while still doing thr above with my son.

Now, earlier this morning, my Wife texted me with the following message: "Anxious. What Eddie say?"

I will reply later on. My son said he is glad that ma-ma has come around to visit and would like to spend a night over at her place.

Ed