Thank you, thank you, thank you! Yet again you have given me hope and yes Cadet, it makes perfect sense! I can now breathe deeply and control my panic and sadness again thanks to you guys. I am now going to get that pen and paper as you suggested Arsene and I know you are so right that it is unattractive to have my identity wrapped up in someone else's. I know I need to stop defining myself by others and validate myself from the inside and remember who I was, who I am am and who I wish to become. I hope that you all are having a strong and positive day and I truly do thank you for taking the time and care to write on my thread,

May you all have a happy day, smile