Thanks for the validation / ongoing support. I guess it's something I'm lacking in my life. Go figure. I'm hopeful to get to a point where I don't rely on it from others, but rather have self validation and believe it for myself.
So we have generally remained friendly. She invited me to watch a few of our favorite shows together, has shown me some funny online posts and stuff. Some of which I have seen her on OM FB page, but I have not reacted. Overall she has been a little more respectful in the sense that she is not always messing with her phone in front of me. At least not as much. So yesterday she has pulled away some. Partially due to lots of laundry and cleaning that she has had to finally catch up on. And its her weekend. She asked me what time she can leave, as she doesn't want to make me "pissy". So I told her she could leave as early as she wants, provided I go to the dr for a follow up appt. I'm unsure of what she's doing or with who, but probably something with OM despite what she said a few weeks ago. Surprise huh? Anyways, I was looking at bank stuff (yikes), and brought up the subject "again" of creating separate accounts. She didn't like it. Not mad, more sad. She initiated an R talk. Asked if the account thing was because I was "pissy" which I wasn't. So I reiterated that it was her idea to do this a month ago and we need to do what we need to do. She then went into wanting more time / space to work through things with her IC (when she gets to start) and not to make any drastic changes. I supported her and validated her "confusion," apologized for a mistake I made early on in our R, and restated my position on our R. Won't remain in a 3rd party R too long, will file, but have learned a lot about myself in the past few months... Becoming a spiritual warrior to battle anything that come my / our way if that ever happens. So we split our ways for a few hours and then asked me to watch another one of our shows near the end of the night. Today is a family day (zoo and Halloween costumes for the kids) so we will see what happens.
