The loss of my own identity feels huge - who am I without him.
I know for one that this is not an attractive thing i a woman (for me anyway). That could be one of these 180s I was talking about. You were someone before him and you have to find that person.
Take this time on your own as a gift for you to recap where you are. Do you really want your life to be defined by someone else? Do you really want to be no one if that person is not around?
I know it hurts. They say it gets easier and perhaps it does but I think that everyone on this site who is still working on saving their M still cries now and then. I know I still do, perhaps too often for my liking .
Now this is your first task. Grab a pen and paper and start writing the qualities you had before meeting H, write the things you liked to do before him. Write things you've always wanted to do but never did. Then write down the steps you'll need to take in order for you to get these things back and to fulfill these dreams you have. These are some of the steps you need to take to find YOU again.
Go girl!!!
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
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