I said that we needed to learn to talk and to listen so that we could have a discussion without it escalating into an argument. I don't know if he thinks it's ok to disagree. Like I said, I feel like he takes any disagreement personally, when all it is is a disagreement.
I go through the same thing and this is when I get accused of "challenging" my H, and also when he says we are like night and day and have nothing in common. I think they feel rejected or that we think their opinions don't count. And it may feed into some insecurities since we both are educated, strong women. I am trying to learn how to admit and accept my H's opinion or thoughts, but tell him that I have a different opinion.
We also seem to be unable to disagree without escalation. I am trying to difuse some of that by staying calm and/or walking away. I've backslid on this once, which caused our blow out 2 weeks ago. Anytime I try to talk to H about the way we have discussions he dismisses it and says "we've never been able to talk". I think some of it is fear on his part. So, that's part of why we have so many unresolved issues.
Can you get another pair of shorts so that you don't have to wash every day? I get your point, since you are the one doing the wash and H is trying to impose something that creates more work for you.
The good new is that you are having some communication and your H is admitting how he feels, which helps you to change something.
M44 H57 D17 (special needs) M 18 yrs Bomb 7/2/12 Still living together
