Point taken 25. Right or wrong, I was merely trying to say that it's not just one thing that caused any marriage to fall apart. It's usually a combination of things and that includes the two parties involved. I am definitely not advocating keeping score, just that no one person carries the full weight of what happened on their shoulders.
In my case, I initially took on all the blame for what happened and thought I'd been a horrible person all along. It's making it very difficult to start loving myself when I feel like a pile of &%$@. Difficult to get my self-esteem back. Yes, there are many things I did wrong and wish I had known I was doing them wrong. I can acknowledge that and face my responsibilities in this, and work on improving myself but there is no reason to beat myself up for things which might have been out of my control.
BTW, I guess i meant to say: "and start appreciating whet we've got." and not "and stop appreciating whet we've got."
Freshman Class of 2012
M-49 W-42 1D-10 T 10 YEARS M 9 YEARS EA/MLC 07/2010 Separation 28/05/2012 PA confirmed 31/07/12 W Asked for D 31/07/12 D on and off the table since then
