Kimmerz - it is good that you are able to talk face to face with your xh in a constructive way.
Not all MLCers can do this though [this is a version of 'do not try this at home'!] There are WAS who are angry and bitter, and mean, and stay that way, blaming everyone. They dare not show regret. I agree with Jack that ther are LBS who are the same, but there are plenty of LBS [many of whom no longer post here] who have forgiven and are living their lives, are kind to their WAS, but the WAS is still out there as angry as ever.
The poster formerly known as Spirit posted that he thinks there might be two types of MLC. I agree. It sounds as if your xh knows he has issues, but for many they are in denial. Sadly any real communication is not possible.
Keep on doing what you are doing - it is working clearly. But sadly for some, all the kindness and forgiveness and attempts to remain friendly just do not work.
We didn't break them and we can't fix them. I only write this because if we have mean ex spouses, we can feel like terrible failures for not being able to communicate with them. It really does take two to communicate!
