My wife just asked me if I had plans for Friday night, (my birthday) and said if not we could go out to dinner. I told her I did have some tentative plans with a friend (true) so I I'd let her know tomorrow. Going out with her would be more productive for rebuilding our marriage than going out with friends.
NOT if all you will do is R talk that sets you way back. I'd go out with friends and get your mind OFF the sitch and have FUN...OR if you MUST grab at each chance to be with her (which is not being mysterious but maybe you feel she's reaching out. As opposed to merely being polite-it matters. IF she's doing this out of obligation DO NOT GO and just show her you are fine on your own.
If she's reaching out you still should not go UNLESS
you make darn sure you can handle aiming for a relaxed "conflict free" NO R TALK evening, without any pressure of any sort.
IF you really can handle that AND be upbeat and fun to be around then MAYBE...but end the evening on a high fun note without ANY reference to doing it again or soon or how grateful you are.
if it goes well, say "I had fun so thanks a lot for that, and good night!"
NO expectations and no "let down" the next day b/c she didnt' fall into your arms the night before...
okay?
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
