change your name to "Tough" and start getting a bit more thick skinned. Don't let every single interaction be GREAT/WONDERFUL... or HORRIBLE and BLEAK...
you're making it more of a roller coaster than it has to be.
Back off the Retrovaille obviously now.
But as for what your c suggested you read, READ THEIR assignments FIRST since you are there. We are not trying to pull you from that. Read both books. Neither are that draining, as neither is a huge novel. (It's not ":War & Peace")
I say this b/c you are going in too many directions and confusing yourself.
Your IC's words are solution based as she wants to steer your interactions towards the positive, which Retrovaille totally reinforces (and 5 LLs are ways of doing that) and which you both need...
but you can read 5 LL's in one or two evenings.
Stop all the mind reading and thinking it's "analysis".
It's getting you into "paralysis by analysis" and you need to back way way off
and just be there for your kids now. Let things settle down.
You have school work to help him with, and a d, right? How is SHE?
And you have some serious GAL and your own personal work. That's enough for now.
Don't worry about WHETHER SHE is doing work or thinking or feeling anything.
Like we suggested for you at Retrovaille, do YOUR stuff nowl, and do not take the temperature or wonder about HER so much. Leave her alone and do your own thing. Create SOME mystery!
Nothing cools a relationship more than someone constantly taking its' temperature.
IF this is too much of a challenge, ask your T for an appointment with an MD b/c I think your anxiety level is so high you may get yourself into trouble with your wife. Anti anxiety meds are designed to keep you from blurting out a damaging comment or from obsessing, which hurts the m and keeps you stuck and at the moment you are in danger of too much obsessing.
Just be here now.
No shame in needing to see an MD. It's merely another tool in the arsenal. Avail yourself of all that you need.
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