I understand your concern which matches my erg first post on here. Allowing ,y W more time and space only further allows her the to invest in the other relationship.

However, nothing I do or say rot now will change her because I cannot change her. Se is so lost and confused that nothing I as or does right now registers. Knowing that I have no option but to give her more space and time.

I know having him move out is scary for a thousand reasons. Your M, your kids, you, and a thousand more. However, there is nothing I think you can do or say to make him focus and make a clear decision right now.

M:44
W:41
M: 12 yrs
W's EA began 3/12
Somewhere between WAW and MLC
Still in same house