Turtle, we have some similar situations on the EA front. Because the other spouse ended it and not either participant, There is no closure and thus I don't believe it is over by a mile.

I can only suggest no more spying and don't focus on it. Sounds impossible and is hard but is the best way to get through this. Focus on you. You said you exercise -- that is great. Find other GAL opportunities and work on you.

We are both in for a long ride on the EA front. Don't let it dominate you. You cannot control it.


M:44
W:41
M: 12 yrs
W's EA began 3/12
Somewhere between WAW and MLC
Still in same house