3 years aftet D-Day and i finally registet

[25yearsmlc]

Also, with finances and digging out from property tax sales and foreclosures, and still being available for my son full time, what GAL things should i seek out?

Walking, running, hiking, lifting weights, meeting old friends for lunch or drinks, dancing, painting, sculpting in clay, learning to fly ultralight aircraft, take a foreign language class, learn to cook, dirt-biking, ATVing, surfing, parasailing, rock-climbing, restore an old car, etc.

With son- rocketry, R/C planes, building models, scouts, hiking, biking, video games, motorcycle rides, play ball at the park, go to a movie, have movie night at home, etc.

Hopefully that's enough to get your mind going

a lot of these sound super fun so do them.

But I'd add that to ME, a key factor in really GAL and being happy

is to meet and involve NEW PEOPLE who don't know your w or your sitch.

JOIN something, like a club or a group or a class.

Go to a seminar, SEE something new and meet new people.

I joined a writer's group, took a French Class and an Italian cooking class, edited a book, took up cross country skiing and hunting and deep sea fishing,

volunteered at a woman's shelter, did stuff at the kids' schools and met cool parents of my kid's friends. They're a good source of relationships.

I auditioned for theater and did stand up comedy and saw a therapist, and more.

I did this in the interior of Alaska and had a newborn.

You are stuck but I think you are having an awakening. Let that happen,

and begin to make braver choices, every day. OR stay stuck. If you think of your son, I think you'll know what's right.

And btw, I never saw ANY mixed signals from her. Just some mild interest in her son and gettinga her "mommy fix" whenever she wants, and you allowing that and that's all I saw.

I think she likes you (what's not to like?) but she's not showing signs of being in love with you at this time.

IF there is a chance of her waking up and discovering her love for you (if it's there)

it'll only be by the threat of losing you that she'll ever make a move.

Which means you must move on. IF she does not wake up, your life will improve that much faster and hey,

if she does wake up, then that's great too.

But what you have done thus far is NOT working. Let me repeat that for emphasis. What you have done thus far is NOT WORKING...do you get that?


Going from no contact for 3 months to episodic contact, which is all child related, simply shows she recalls being a mom. Not a wife. Sorry, truly.

Way back when, You know she did not stop drinking out of the blue. Something triggered her former recovery, some loss or threat of.

I think this works the same for her. Make sense?