3 years aftet D-Day and i finally registet

[25yearsmlc]

Question?

When my wife 1st got back in touch 5 weeks ago, and discussed visitation, i stated that Parenting Counseling should be considered due to her previous 97 days of only visiting and calling our son 1 time only.

She agreed, and said that sounded like a good idea.

but YOU did what after? Nothing? Oh...so you still give her the power?


Now, this morning she texted me to have him overnight Friday night through Saturday morning and then bring him to his 10:00 am karate class. She said she might take him out to eat and then to a bowling alley she hangs out at.

No idea if her OM would be around. The last time she had him for an evening, on May 11th, for a visit, she was supposedly going to take him to a park, but wound up going to a bowling alley with a girlfriend, according to her, but my son said there were 2 guys there.

I want to remind her, once again, because i did raise the issue the last time she wanted him overnight, about the agreement for Parenting Counseling that she agreed would be a good idea. She said, "Oh Ya, That's Right". No request for an overnight visit since then. Actually, she has not Ever had him for an overnight visit yet, ever since she moved out on February 16th. This is only the 2nd time she requested it.

stop making this more complicated than it has to be.Take the lead, own your life and stop WAITING for her.

Just get something in writing, period.

Should i follow through and decline, which is a boundary i created? I feel like she is now just ignoring that agreement.

she IS ignoring the "agreement" (assuming she meant to agree to it and you didn't just assume she was). SO What's the question?

Why do you refer to boundaries and then not enforce them and THEN act surprised that she ignores them? What is surprising to you there?

That is my gut instinct, but i don't want to act cruel and have it come back as Parental Alienation.

you're kidding, right? Are you grasping at any straws to avoid enforcing a boundary so you can remain in the "enable" mode?

I have other tasks i will be taking care of for myself today, just so you folks know i am keeping busy and trying to move forward.

Thank You,

Ed

don't "TRY" to move forward. Just DO it.