I just read your whole situation, and I feel your pain. I feel very sorry for you!

I understand your confusion surrounding the 180 of offering to watch the kids. I also made my wife feel guilty for going out. I wanted more together time, but she wanted more free time. A therapist once described it as "me time, us time, and you time." I wanted more US time and she needed more YOU time.

I hope someone more experienced is able to chime in. I'm curious to see what others think as well.

M34 W35
S5 S2
T10 M6
on/off over the years including her A
Recently-
Nov 2015 bomb
Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling
Feb bomb
March-April Reconciling
May - bomb
Mid-May I tell her I'm done