Thanks 25. You said we need to get the tools or we will be back here in a year. That makes sense, I agree. I had a good meeting with the IC, she’s a PHD, knows her stuff, she’s done all the clinical training. She really likes the Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, I believe the writer’s done a lot of real life lab research. She was explaining the 3 different kind of interactions. Positive, distant and I think the last one was mean. To nobody’s surprise, the couples with the most positive interactions had the best relationships. I am sure it’s probably a good read but 5 LL is more of a priority read for me.
The parent conference went well. I was really proud of S8, he’s getting really good grades. Sure there’s area for improvement but for the most part it was very positive. Our separation has been really tough on him. I’ve always instilled the importance of family so all of this has hurt him a lot. I’ve mentioned before, our bond is amazing, I just love that kid so much.
We kept most of the focus on S8. W was civil but it was evident that she was a bit cold and standoffish. Right before we left W said she got my email and she would prefer to go to the joint counselor instead and she will respond to my email. I didn't give her any pressure, I just simply stated, “no problem.”
I think all of you were right, the timing’s off. I am still glad I asked, it was worth a shot. I don't want to push the issue much because that wouldn't be good for anyone, at this stage anyway. To be honest, I don’t think we are even close to any form of piecing. Maybe that’s just my insecurities creeping in but I am not expecting an email full of I love you’s, that’s for sure. Yes, I have hope but things sure feel bleak today.
