Journal: Texted W once while away just letting her know i was thinking about her. No response. Texted wife when i was back home and thanked her for the meals. Her response was positive and inquired how i did and if i had a good trip. Texted back and forth a bit and ended with her planning on stopping by the house to pick up some mail. When she came over we visited awhile, talked about her job mainly. She called later and let me know there was a BD celebration at the social group for a friend, asked if i would be going. I said yes but i would be late. We met at the social group as she was leaving, talked in the parking lot then gave her a hug goodbye (normal for when we do see each other).
Thoughts of What Next?
I need to stay patient, do not push, give her space. I have been reading Denver_2010 posts from his sitch and trying to learn from others on the Board. I ask myself how much contact I shoud initiate? Most here say none, i have a hard time with that. My W will easily pull back into a shell and because one of the issues in M was that i withdrew from here emotionally i feel that i need to gain her confidence and show her that i do care and can forgive. This will be accomplished only with time.
With my looming move out of state i wonder if she is guarding her emotions knowing that i am leaving??
I would rather feel pain then never feel at all... Separated 3/2012 T 34 yrs M 27 yrs
