She said she'd understand if I was hurtful, angry, or sad. But she said my cheerfulness confuses her.
We had small talk on the drive to work. I maintained my composure until I dropped her off. Then I got angry. Very very angry at the situation, the uncertainty, and the position it will put our son in.
That's actually the way to do it. Show her nothing but a positive, content, cheerful you. Act "as if" everything is fine even if it isn't. But when she's not around that's your time to be angry, sad, depressed, etc. There were times that I was crying literally 15 minutes before seeing my W but dried my eyes, puffed my chest out and showed her nothing but happiness and strength by the time she showed up. But when you work on yourself and your PMA eventually you ARE content and you don't have to act "as if" anymore. And that's what DB'ing does for us, it focuses on reconciliation, but it gets us to that point where we realize we will be fine with or without our spouse.
