This is a horrible horrible thing WE are going through -- I don't want you not to come here - you will learn so much ABOUT you that you don't even realize. Don't let other people opinions make you not stay here -- that's what a forum is about - different opinions.

The pain, the gut wrenching, the worry, the sadness and the anger are unbearable - but each day gets a little easier -- and then as we grow and change things get hard for a while again.

>>>>>>Furthermore, I am insulted if either of you think living this life for the next two years is the "easy" way out.<<<<<

None of this is easy - if we decide to STAND it's not easy and if we decide to LEAVE it's not easy. You have to do what you think is right - doesn't matter what anyone here posts - you are the one who has to live your life for you - either way you will find support here. I am in a similar situation - though I only have one child and only together 15 years.

Unfortunately the more we want and need someone the less they want us -- the only that helps me is becoming the best I can be doing well in other areas of my life that I have control of my health, my relationship with God, my son, my hobbies etc.

Not being able to get what I want from my wife and dwelling on it cripples me - she is a free person - she always was she just chose to be my friend lover and companion - if she doesn't want that anymore I can't help that.

I will always support you Mrsrjd no matter what you decide or no matter how much you need to go through - please hang around !!

If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it.
I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!