Thanks Chatter! I do feel like I'm figuring out the "resetting of the clock" a little better now... I just need to freak out on the boards for a few days now... not a few weeks
I started setting those boundaries with my friends last night, and I must say I feel pretty good about that. I'll have to do the same thing with a couple of my family members too, but I'll just wait until there's a confrontation about it before I set those up... No use in calling them and saying "I won't tolerate XYZ"!
And as far as the work emails go, for now I think I'm good. She actually did respond to the email quite quickly and kept a 100% professional tone, asked me to resend some information and ended the email.
No "Hope you're doing well" No "Take Care" nothing of the sort.
And I'm glad for that. To me, it shows that she heard my request that we "postpone" our friendship at all levels while OM is in the picture, but isn't sacrificing the STELLAR work she does for the company out of spite.
I fired back the information she needed and should not be getting a response to that email.
