Don't be too hard on yourself mate. It's amazing what we take for granted when all is "well". The thing is, though, we're not the only "baddies" here. Sure we didn't know how to love them the way they needed it but I'm pretty sure the same goes both ways. You didn't know her love language and she probably didn't know yours.
Whenever I look back I see things in our lives together which could have been done differently, from both ends. I don't think that changing anyone of them would have made much of a difference in what has happened. The only thing we can do now is make sure it doesn't happen again. Make sure we don't become complacent again and stop appreciating whet we've got. And frankly, that should start now even if we feel destitute. Mate, I hope I don't sound like I'm preaching. I think I'm actually trying to uplift my own spirit here.
Good point Arsene. As unhappy as they say they were, if we look close enough we can see that we probably weren't as happy as we could have been either. All the more reason to make life changes for ourselves.
M: A really long time. Crisis: 5 years. She's still worth it.
Life is never made unbearable by circumstances, but only by lack of meaning and purpose. -Viktor Frankl
