should I say thinks for taking care of it if she still does not address me ???
I would and did/do...Basically, I would speak first when it is a "business" issue (paying a bill, whatever)...or an opportunity to validate/ackowledge her (since this was one of MY shortcomings in the R, and one of her childhood issues...no validation from family). I just wouldn't (and don't if I sense W is withdrawn or whatever) pursue anything beyond, like "how was your day", R talks, etc.
Yup, this is confusing, DB with mlc is not a cookie-cutter, follow the schematics thing...lots of trial and error, intuition, trust in yourself, in God, etc.
T^2
In the depths of winter, I finally learned that within me there lay an invincible summer. - Albert Camus
Uncertainty is the very condition which impels people to unfold their powers.-Eric Fromm
