After doing some yardwork (H has not been doing any yardwork)yesterday I went to the market to pick up a few items for dinner then to the mall to get a new lipstick. Stopped by my favorite restaurant which is in the mall and had a margarita with chips and dip for a snack. I hadn't eaten all day (feeling stressed). Sat and watched a few minutes of the Voice, read some DB posts then decided to head home to prepare dinner for 8:00. H called while I was in route which is about 5-10 minutes from our home. Of course he asked what I was doing and I told him I stopped by the mall then picked up some steak for dinner. I pulled in the driveway and he was already home. Conversation was going well. He talked about his work day and how good dinner was. We cuddled on the couch and watched a movie. Afterward H wanted to ML but I was tired, it was late and I knew that he could sleep in the next day but I had an early start. He immediately started questioning me again about my day, specifically about stopping at the restaurant. Ah Ha, I thought. Maybe he will reveal the real reason for all the questions. H said that he didn't understand why I needed to stop at the restaurant or have a margarita and questioned how many I had and why I was drinking. I told H that I was tired b/c of the yardwork I had done earlier and left it at that. I turned over in the bed then he asked me why I turned away from him and why I would not touch him. I felt like H was trying to pick an argument so I did not feed into it. I went to sleep.
I slept rather well last night and this morning H seemed to be in a better mood. He initiated and we ML. Afterward, I sat up in the bed thinking about my sitch. How H is acting like nothing is wrong and seems to be enjoying that I am no longer asking questions, snooping or mentioning the OW. How he seemed proud of the fact that he is no longer in a PA but did mention he still talks (EA)to OW on occasion. How he has designated Sunday's as his "Man's day out" which I don't question either b/c I'm trying to GAL myself. How he could be cake eating...hmmmm. So many thoughts ran through my mind. So much uncertainty. H asked what I was thinking and I told him that somethings I'd like to keep to myself. That some thoughts didn't warrant a discussion. He said, "so it's like that?" and I said yes. For the first time throughout this sitch, I did not respond in a tell all manner.
I plan to meet up with friends on Friday night to watch a co-worker who plays in a band, catch a movie on Saturday and invite family and friends over for dinner on Sunday. I want to do this with or without H. Should I tell him my plans and give him an opportunity to participate or just do it? GAL/Detach mode?
Also, I feel like I need more insight on cake eating and how to expose and deal with that w/o reverting back to asking him a ton of questions b/c I would'nt believe him anyway.
