Originally Posted By: TSquared2
One idea:

If you go home and she has already ordered food and whatnot, thank her for taking care of it (mlc'ers crave attention, validation and acknowledgment) and THEN, make tomorrow's dinner (maybe something that can be re-heated, like a nice lasagna or something, then let her know that dinner is taken care of for tomorrow night and any reheating instructions (said with all the importance of "I took out the trash"...i.e., as if no big deal). In fact, this might work for your Wednesdays to cook ahead on the weekends or Tuesday night. Remeber, this is for you and S first, showing her a 180 secondary.

Let her be silent and go about your life with S and all...there is going to be a lot of this in the days, months to come...the best thing you can do is roll with it. It's not all about you, and as time goes on, it will be less, and less, about you and mostly about her internal journey. Have you read the "Stages of MLC"? Though it isn't a sure fire exact fit template, it is an invaluable rough guide roadmap of things to expect so they don't throw you for a loop.

That's my 2.5 cents...

T^2


This is the confusing part for me -- since until I started posting here I would always greet her when I saw her I am trying to stop that and NOT speak to her her UNLESS she speaks to me.

When I got home on Monday though she did not make me dinner she cleaned the kitchen and batroom up which she is generally to lazy to do -- BUT since she did not speak to me I didn't address it --

So if I walk in and I see she has already fed my son should I say thinks for taking care of it if she still does not address me ???

Thanks for all your help !!

Sunny


If someone decides there is no goodness in you they won't be able to see it.
I'll take a BLT over a MLC anyday !!!