It's familiar in that the communication isn't quite happening, and that minor irritants lead you back into the bigger frustration of where your M is at. We also had a recurring argument about "it's always your way" that seemed to pop up when this kind of stuff would happen, and that's a tough cycle to break.
When we did retrouv, we really clicked when it came to explaining things to each other (the communication exercises). The problem was, neither of us ever had the patience to talk to the other in a way that was productive. The elephant in the room always seemed to get in the way. Once I started really thinking of "why" I wanted things a certain way, and tried to explain them patiently, things got considerably better.
My W, much like your H, said "communication isn't our problem" but in reality, it was, at least in part. For me, understanding how I feel, and why I feel it, and then communicating that really took some time. It sounds like that's similar for you two. Since you are getting it, and your H isn't, you might have to try to lead him when it comes to this stuff, at least initially. I know that when I started talking to my W directly, and with patience, she started to reciprocate.
